Have you ever been in the situation where you “know” you need to do something and it just never seems to happen despite your very best intentions? A great example is what happens when we make resolutions at the New Year. We feel we should, we feel we ought to, other people think that we should…get more exercise, stop smoking, get a new job, lose weight and so on.
Making a Decision is the cognitive process resulting in the selection of a course of action among several alternative scenarios. What is the change; where is the shift, and how do you know where you are in the process of decision making? To have decided means you are free from hesitation or wavering; resolute; determined.
How you get from deciding to decided is a very personal journey. You must discover your motivation. You cannot hand someone a cup of motivation. Motivation is an internal process. It comes from discovering that the behavior or new discipline you desire is or has become part of your deeply held value system. You feel it in your heart and your soul. You want to be the change you seek. The shift causes you to seek out the desired behavior, and you may even feel worse for not doing the desired behavior. You understand what you want, you believe it, and you trust it and you feel proud because of it. You will get more done when you make decisions based on your deeply held values.
We all have seen the reality TV shows that demonstrate the human condition and the inability to make the shift. We also have seen the stories of people who have shed hundreds of pounds, become accomplished athletes, and have taken their lives from their lowest hour to the heights of success. These people have made the shift in their reality to one that includes the actions that support the changes that will get them to their goals. Without the decision to change, and the determination to perform the actions that are required, these goals will be unattainable.
The journey is different for each of us, so I challenge you to start thinking about the changes you want to make and listen to the irrational stories you tell yourself that keep you from doing what you want to do.
Now envision the outcome you desire, and listen to all the chatter you hear in your mind. What are you telling yourself are the reasons this will never work? Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.” So if all you can hear is negative self-talk, then your decision has been made. It will never work. If you can turn that around and tell yourself that you will succeed, and you are ready to act, then the vision of your success will move you in the direction that you want to go.
Spring is right around the corner, it is a good time to ask, what is lacking? What would your vision of success look like? If you have never made a vision board, now would be a great time. Gather some magazines, cut out some photos, print some encouraging and enlightening sayings and create a paper or virtual vision board filled with these images and motivational statements, to keep the goal front and center. Look at your goal every day. See what success will look like. If things are getting in the way, let’s identify what they are and deal with them, so you can move forward.
If you feel like you can’t determine what the issues are, take my free Productivity Scorecard. It is a great place to start. The time to decide is now.